You are a good mom.
I learned it from them.
I have come across a lot of moms who question themselves. They aren’t sure they are a good mom.
The social media society we live in leads to a lot of comparisons, and it’s easy to feel like you don’t measure up. But these are not the things that make you a good mom.
And all three of these things involve love. It’s that simple.
1. Love them fiercely
To most people, this comes naturally. So BOOM! Congrats! You’re 33% there, without even trying! Look at you go!
2. Love them unconditionally
Yet even when I knew I was in big trouble and that they were so disappointed in me (which is worse than being mad, right?), I still knew they loved me. I knew they weren’t going to disown me. They loved me unconditionally.
3. Be their safe place to land
I have read about how children, particularly toddlers, tend to act out more with their parents because they know it’s safe. They know if they have an emotional meltdown with mom or dad, the world will still continue to spin (these are really intelligent toddlers who understand cosmology.) There may be some discipline, but either during or after the said meltdown, there will be a warm hug. See above – unconditional love.
I’m talking about the kids who call their parents when a party gets out of hand. I’m thinking of the teenager who will go to her parents immediately when she finds out she is pregnant or the kid who got arrested and knows that dad will be angry but will still help him out of this bind. When a child wants to drop out of college, or (gasp!) enlist in the military, they know where their cheering squad is.