Her life was changing, cardboard boxes or not. And for military kids who are so often asked to deal with monumental life changes, maybe it’s the little things that can throw them off balance. Maybe it’s seemingly imperceptible changes, the ones we adults barely register, that have the biggest impact. After all, we have so little control over our military lives. Imagine the powerlessness our little ones must feel.
Parenting military children is no easy feat. Big life changes almost always equal big feelings — as they should. But navigating those sometimes murky waters needn’t be overwhelming. Our children are capable of thriving, given we dedicate ourselves to mindfulness and patience. After all, resiliency is not simply bestowed upon our children for having endured.
So what do you do when that happens? What do you do when you get orders to a place that terrifies you? Or a place that is the exact opposite of what you’re used to? Or simply a place that was never on your radar to begin with? Well, before I answer that, let me paint you a picture.
At some point in a military career, you are likely to live in military base housing or some type of off-base, privatized housing. Here, find 8 ways to make your home a little less basic and a little more fabulous.
Though it came with many obstacles, this is by far the most interesting and eye opening ‘assignment’ of our career. I would offer five recommendations to anyone who finds their family in a similar situation.
Recently, my husband’s military record changed to reflect that he now has an “exceptional family member.” Prior to the diagnosis, nothing appeared amiss. Afterwards, I experienced an array of emotions ranging from shock and anger to hurt and fear.
Every few years the military sweeps us from coast to coast and sometimes even OCONUS (Outside Continental United States). For a woman who grew up with a very defined hometown (hands up for Dallas, Texas!), a cosmopolitan upbringing, and extensive travels, I thought I had this in the bag. I didn’t. You don’t. I mean you might, but I doubt it.
I vowed not to do it again. Now I make a point to dive in headfirst to every new city we move to (we’re on our fifth new city in eight years!) and truly making it my home for as long as we’re there. Here are a few things I’ve found to be helpful once the boxes are unpacked and you find yourself in a brand new city.
From the moment the letters PCS are uttered, I inevitably morph into an only slightly less insane version of Gordan Ramsey. Moving sucks, and not just for you. If I have learned anything from my conversations with Dr. Deter, advance preparation is essential for a seamless move with your pets. Here, find some tips, tricks, and musts for traveling domestically with dogs and cats, so hopefully your next move will be slightly less insane and smelly than it needs to be.