Deployment

My husband and I have just celebrated our tenth wedding anniversary and I’ve, naturally, been reflecting on my first decade as a military spouse. I started thinking what I would tell my pre-military spouse self if I had a...

Whether you (or I) like it, if your spouse (or you!) is in the military, separation is a big piece of this life. No matter if it's a field exercise, trip to a training center, or a deployment- you...

This afternoon my husband left for the “undreth” time. This is a short stint, just two sleeps as we refer to it. After 17 years of being an AF Pilot’s wife you would think that I have become numb...

Deployment is hard. It's messy. It's unnerving and overwhelming. It's chaos and calamity wrapped up in the ever changing emotions of kids and parents alike. It's not for the faint of heart. Or maybe it is. We don't have...

Resiliency. I often hear that word when someone is describing a child who has grown up in a military family. According to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary, resiliency is defined as "the ability to recover from or adjust easily to adversity...

If you’re anything like me, self-care is something that often gets pushed into the ‘nice to do’ pile rather than ‘must do.  This is especially true during deployments but I often find it slipping at other times too.  One...

Last Thanksgiving I felt that a boulder sat on my chest as we gathered with friends to share what we were thankful for. We had recently learned that my husband would deploy very last minute, and I had little...

Sometimes I wonder if it’s a blessing or a curse that my husband joined the military later in life. We had the early years of our marriage to grow together into a strong couple, without the interruptions of boot camp,...

In 2017, my husband and I, recently newlyweds, faced his third deployment together. When we walk through season of times apart, we establish goals to work towards that help to find purpose and unity in hard circumstances. I recently...

We were on vacation when the official word came through - my husband would be deploying with the National Guard for one year. 12 months. Maybe 13 months if needed. This was not our first rodeo. My husband had been...

We've been doing this military thing for 16 years...enough time that I'm officially not a newbie in this role as a spouse; I'd even go as far as saying that I'm "seasoned." But today...today I'm simply tired of being...

As a military spouse and sexologist, I get this question a lot: how do you keep the spark during deployment? How do you connect sexually with your partner who’s on a completely different continent? I love answering these questions...